Has mr. he'll do taken the place of mr. right?

Today I was overcome by the surpising realization that I still get nervous about first dates. That feeling of spending an hour or two with a complete stranger never dissapears no matter how many dates I go on. Going through the same motions expecting a different outcome some would call stupid. yet every day milions of people meet someone hoping for a connection.

It seems it was almost easier when we were younger and had no pressure or expectations but truly were looking to have fun with someone. Now we try to truly give that person a chance but we can't help pick up on not feeling a connection or pet peeves we may have the person does. Meanwhile we hear the voice of our parents or our happily relationshiped friends saying "Give him a chance".

Then there is the multiple options out there. You wonder if you should settle for someone that seems like they will do or if you should hold your playing hand hoping for that winning card. We have such a high rate of divorces today. Part of that can be due to not wanting to put the work in but alot also has to do with the feeling that there are so many other people out there in the world. The ease of connecting with someone by sending a quick email.

I wonder if many people get into their early to mid 30's realize their perfect person hasn't been met and go for the next acceptable candidate. The he has potential or he seems nice. Then there is those that keep waiting for that perfect person, and later realize they were too picky or their expectations were too high.

Woman are having more and more independance with each decade pasisng. They are waiting longer and longer to have kids. Unlike many generations we are given 5, 10, 15 years, to have our "me" time after we graduate college, yet we still have trouble finding that recipe for that person we want to end up with.

Online dating has done away with true blind dates. We see the person's picture, read their profile, talk on the website, email, and text. By the time we meet we have expectations. No matter how many friends I talk to none have said oh he was much better than I expected! For most, they are dissapointed yet the virtual matchmaker continues to grow at a high rate as the years go one.

Alas...what's a girl to do..?