Are women really liberated?

Our great grandmothers, grandmothers and mothers fought hard so women would have the right to vote, the right to work in careers previously deemed only suitable for men, receive higher education, the choice to wear clothes and music that they chose and to make their own decisions in regards to their sexual health and pregnancy. We like to brag and feel pride that we have so much more than generations before us. But do we really? How free is the female gender?

I know these women truly thought they were not only improving their lives but generations to come. So why do I bring up this topic today in 2013? Aren't we independent? We pay our own bills, have our own cars and apartments, plan our days and goals. Often we go weeks even months without a date without any assistance from a man and we get by just fine.

I spent two days this weekend with two girlfriends. One I met years ago at 25 and one I met two days ago. While we hung out this weekend on separate days in different venues the conversation went back to dating and men. I could not help but think to myself: Imagine the impact we could have if we bottled up the time and energy we spend analyzing men's actions. "I texted him a smiley face did that scare him off? What if I wore blue instead of red maybe then he would be contacting me?"  and poured it into examining ourselves? What makes you happy? What are your goals? What are your dreams? And they are not alone every day millions of girls including myself try to strike freedom and independence from guy's approval and not understanding when they do not act as we wish.

Later that evening, I poised the question to a new guy I have been spending time with. Why do guys no longer make the effort? We had a long talk and he seemed to think that girls worked so hard to gain independence that guys now want just that an independent woman that doesn't care if he texts because she is too busy running her own crusade. Will the supreme court next be hearing about Sue vs. Sue, the independent woman I am in all areas expect those of the heart? How do we take the world by storm and show woman how many hours they spend worrying about men when those men are only becoming stronger as they don't have to fight so hard for independence from obstacles of the heart?

Are we really still hunters and gathers? Men hunting the woman just  to have options and for woman to gather opinions about their un answered text messages? Will human kind be able to survive this new age world of internet dating and disappearance text messaging? Have we become too big brother having the power to follow our crushes every move on facebook, twitter, and online dating venues? As spiderman said, with great power comes great responsibility. So please the next time you're into someone and they aren't making the effort just let them go. Have we come so far just to regress?

Nature vs. Nurture...Love another four letter word. In the end it all comes down to choice. Rule love and dating or let it rule you. And remember the  most important thing is to love yourself. If you do the rest will follow..